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View Poll Results: Your 15 year old son announces he is gay - what do you do?
Inform him that he doesn't need to decide his sexuality yet - give it time
12
30.77%
Arrange counseling for him to deal with the issue
15
38.46%
Try to find ways to "convert" him to heterosexuality
I would accept what he has to say. There are a lot of emotions brewing around those mid teen years, and if he knows he is gay, then I would believe him.
I would ask if he wanted a counselor to maybe talk things over or to help figure his feelings out.
I would do everything in my power to make him feel like his decision should not affect who he is inside, just because it goes against a lot of today's society's beliefs.
I would encourage him to join a Gay/Straight Alliance at his school.
I would have him talk to a few gay friends of mine - someone to help him with the conflict, someone who's been there before and knows what he's feeling.
And I would tell him that if he brings a boy over, the same rules apply if it were a girl - the door to the bedroom stays open. muahah.
Anyway... that is what I hope I would do. I cant obviously say that's what I WOULD do - but I think that's how I would react.
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I voted 'Try to find ways to "convert" him to heterosexuality'.
Ha Ha!!!
I voted for counseling only because I would want him to understand that he isn't doing anything wrong and a counselor is going to help him get through is teenage years way more than I would.
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I would accept what he has to say. There are a lot of emotions brewing around those mid teen years, and if he knows he is gay, then I would believe him.
I would ask if he wanted a counselor to maybe talk things over or to help figure his feelings out.
I would do everything in my power to make him feel like his decision should not affect who he is inside, just because it goes against a lot of today's society's beliefs.
I would encourage him to join a Gay/Straight Alliance at his school.
I would have him talk to a few gay friends of mine - someone to help him with the conflict, someone who's been there before and knows what he's feeling.
And I would tell him that if he brings a boy over, the same rules apply if it were a girl - the door to the bedroom stays open. muahah.
Anyway... that is what I hope I would do. I cant obviously say that's what I WOULD do - but I think that's how I would react.
Just curious - who voted "pray he would change"?
whether it's a god or blind nature - that sexuality is innate, IMO.
How many gay men remained closeted for decades - even marrying women and fathering children so that their intolerant family wouldn't reject them as human, or so that they wouldn't lose a good job in a bigoted organization?
Sad...
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I picked #1, with the notion that whatever he decides to be is fine - and maybe he is Gay - but I believe that while more people are bisexual than either strictly homosexual or heterosexual, there is tremendous pressure from both sides to pick yer pizen and not be 'deviant'.
I say this after watching a young relative (female) go through exactly this process - when she started finding women as appealing as men, she was put under ridiculous pressure by her new friends to declare herself gay, buy into a lifestyle and philosophy, all rather militant. Being fairly young, she figured she'd been 'mistaken' that she liked guys - as if that had been the 'experimentation,' but now she'd discovered her true sexuality. Family uproar, alienation, whole nine yards. She finally went to counseling to deal with it - a gay counselor, natch.
However, two years and a couple gay relationships and broken hearts later, she was back with a guy, and the pressure from straight friends and relatives to declare her hetero preference 'officially' was just as crazy. Meanwhile, harshly ostracized from the gay community! including her gay therapist!!
I was the only person who said, 'You know, you're probably really bisexual, which means you can double your fun, as long as you can comfortably resist the pressure to 'declare' yourself." That's what she's working on.
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I'm not going to call in the big guns (counseling, organized groups) until he feels ready to open up further...but I would certainly leave that as an option for a future date.
BTW - I voted for counseling - it's got to be tough as hell to come out as a sexual minority.
I accept my gay cousin - I admit I had to adjust to the news.
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After jumping out the nearest window, setting myself on fire, and drinking a fifth of 151, I would definitely sit down and talk. I would need to be as rash as possible in dealing with this.
After jumping out the nearest window, setting myself on fire, and drinking a fifth of 151, I would definitely sit down and talk. I would need to be as rash as possible in dealing with this.
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