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My niece (really my wifes niece) is getting married this fall and I am so disappointed in her choice.
She is getting married to a guy who does taxidermy from his parents garage. His ambition is to have his own taxidermy shop. Ok, while I think thats a lame ambition, whatever, he has an eye on the future (I guess).
The thing that bothers me about the guy is he refuses to have anything to do with her side of the family. He drove my niece to her Great Aunts funeral but refused to go inside because he didn't "know those people"--umm how about being there for emotional support for your fiance????
Then he refuses to go with her to Thanksgiving dinner with her side of the family because he doesn't agree with her mother getting a divorce. He then goes on to say that if her mother wants to make peace with him she needs to seek him out and sit down and explain herself to him? WTF? Like her parents marriage is ANY of his business.
Then what I just find out recently is for their wedding he is going to have a camouflage bowtie and vest with his tuxedo. My niece was going to have camouflage trim on her gown but luckily people were able to talk some sense in to him.
My niece is a college grad but he lives in a small town and refuses to move far from his parents (mama's boy) so she pretty much wasted her education because they just don't have a lot of Human Resources job on family run farms...she's working at a hardware store and seems to think thats fine.
Bah, its frustrating to me because she is so smart and could do so much better but it seems like she just settled for the first guy that came along and showed interest(its her first real boyfriend).
I know its not my life and she may really be in love and it may last forever but I just have a bad feeling about it.
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My niece (really my wifes niece) is getting married this fall and I am so disappointed in her choice.
She is getting married to a guy who does taxidermy from his parents garage. His ambition is to have his own taxidermy shop. Ok, while I think thats a lame ambition, whatever, he has an eye on the future (I guess).
The thing that bothers me about the guy is he refuses to have anything to do with her side of the family. He drove my niece to her Great Aunts funeral but refused to go inside because he didn't "know those people"--umm how about being there for emotional support for your fiance????
Then he refuses to go with her to Thanksgiving dinner with her side of the family because he doesn't agree with her mother getting a divorce. He then goes on to say that if her mother wants to make peace with him she needs to seek him out and sit down and explain herself to him? WTF? Like her parents marriage is ANY of his business.
Then what I just find out recently is for their wedding he is going to have a camouflage bowtie and vest with his tuxedo. My niece was going to have camouflage trim on her gown but luckily people were able to talk some sense in to him.
My niece is a college grad but he lives in a small town and refuses to move far from his parents (mama's boy) so she pretty much wasted her education because they just don't have a lot of Human Resources job on family run farms...she's working at a hardware store and seems to think thats fine.
Bah, its frustrating to me because she is so smart and could do so much better but it seems like she just settled for the first guy that came along and showed interest(its her first real boyfriend).
I know its not my life and she may really be in love and it may last forever but I just have a bad feeling about it.
Kerry, you need to sit her down & tell her exactly how you feel--as gently as you possibly can.
There have been times when people have told me after the fact that they knew a decision I was making was the wrong one, but didn't say anything. That always irritated me because had I heard someone that I loved & trusted say something about it (in a LOVING way), I would have listened. I might not have changed my mind, but at least later I would have known that I had all the info & feelings on the subject ahead of time.
She IS making a mistake, and time will prove that.
There have been times when people have told me after the fact that they knew a decision I was making was the wrong one, but didn't say anything. That always irritated me because had I heard someone that I loved & trusted say something about it (in a LOVING way), I would have listened. I might not have changed my mind, but at least later I would have known that I had all the info & feelings on the subject ahead of time.
Well....I have been wanting to talk to you about that fella you've been seeing.
Well....I have been wanting to talk to you about that fella you've been seeing.
What??? You told me you thought he was cool and you have this weird man-crush on him & his unique blend of foot fashion accessories. Were you lying to me????
What??? You told me you thought he was cool and you have this weird man-crush on him & his unique blend of foot fashion accessories. Were you lying to me????
What??? You told me you thought he was cool and you have this weird man-crush on him & his unique blend of foot fashion accessories. Were you lying to me????
I'm so confused now!!!
You win.
We had an awesome time meeting up with you guys at HC Disneyland.
Kerry, you need to sit her down & tell her exactly how you feel--as gently as you possibly can.
There have been times when people have told me after the fact that they knew a decision I was making was the wrong one, but didn't say anything. That always irritated me because had I heard someone that I loved & trusted say something about it (in a LOVING way), I would have listened. I might not have changed my mind, but at least later I would have known that I had all the info & feelings on the subject ahead of time.
She IS making a mistake, and time will prove that.
Believe me I want to but my wife doesn't want me to do that because she thinks it'll ruin their relationship (my wife is her Godmother as well as her Aunt). I don't want to ruin what little relationship my wife and her have--she used to be real close to us and called us her "other parents" while she was in college at ASU she'd stay with us on long weekends and stuff--but she got homesick and only did 1 year before moving back to Minnesota to finish school and thats when she met her man in the summer between her Freshman and Sophomore years.
What I really want is to have a conversation with Camo-tux boy and see if I can get anything out of him but the few times I have been in the same room as him he sits there like a bump on a log and isn't very social. Maybe I could bring up killing and stuffing animals as an ice breaker?
She is head over heels for the guy and I think he might actually be her first..well first you know and that may have a lot to do with it.
Oh and the camouflage tie and vest pretty much sealed it for me, I didn't care for him before but after finding that out yesterday I felt the need to vent.
dreamcastrocks--My Hero!!
What??? You told me you thought he was cool and you have this weird man-crush on him & his unique blend of foot fashion accessories. Were you lying to me????
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