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Went out on a date tonight with some guy I met last Saturday. It was okay. He took into consideration that I am a vegetarian and took me to an Indian restaurant, which was alright I guess. (I would have preferred Italian, but whatever.) I offered to pay my share, but the following exchange took place:
Me:"How much do I owe?"
Him: "Don't worry about it. I got it."
Me: "Are you sure?"
Him: "Yes."
Me: "Well, at least let me leave the tip."
Him: "Um, what do I do for a living?"
Me: "Um, software engineer?"
Him: "Yeah. And what do YOU currently do for a living?"
Me: "Um, a whole lotta nothing?"
Him: "That's right."
I was not pleased by that exchange (although it might have turned me on if he were hot).
Then we went to see a band in North Phoenix. He paid our $5 cover. Cool. I suggested we get drinks. He said the easiest thing to do would be to flag down a waitress. (We were standing because there were no tables available.) So, after THIRTY MINUTES and no flagging down of said waitress, I say, "hey, I'm gonna grab a beer. You want something?" He asks for a Captain and Coke. I pay because he has paid up until this point.
He has one drink. I have three. He buys none of them, which would be okay except our beverage tab is more than dinner and the cover. I am definitely getting the short end of the stick here.
So, after the band's first set, I buy a CD and we go outside since it is so damned smokey inside. (I reek right now.) We chat about stuff and seem to have good conversation. Eventually, I tell him I'm gonna head home. We hug once. Then chat some more. We hug again and I let my hand linger on this chest. (I really am not interested in this guy, but figure a little making out before he goes back inside is okay since we apparently did that last Saturday night already.)
Well, apparently I got shot down. WTF? This dude had hair longer than mine pulled back in a ponytail. He's one inch taller than me. He can't dance and is balding at the crown of his head. Sure, he drives a nice black Mustang and, as he told me on more than one occasion, is a software engineer and makes a lot of money, but that crap does not make up for, well, dull.
Oh, and if all this weren't enough, he chatted with numerous people at the bar and never introduced me to anyone. Not cool.
Am currently debating about whether or not to go out somewhere else tonight, by myself, and try to meet someone more like me (if there is such a person, lol)!
NEXT!!!!
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I have been told (guys correct me if I'm wrong) that guys often find it insulting if a chick offers to pay when it's clearly a date. Maybe at that point he was put off by you, but with his lack of experience (making a wild guess given your description) didn't know how to handle it.
I have been told (guys correct me if I'm wrong) that guys often find it insulting if a chick offers to pay when it's clearly a date. Maybe at that point he was put off by you, but with his lack of experience (making a wild guess given your description) didn't know how to handle it.
Perhaps. But I was taught that a lady always offers to pay. It's just good manners.
Oh well. I guess it was better than sitting home on a Friday night. Blah.
I have been told (guys correct me if I'm wrong) that guys often find it insulting if a chick offers to pay when it's clearly a date. Maybe at that point he was put off by you, but with his lack of experience (making a wild guess given your description) didn't know how to handle it.
I get insulted if they don't ask. I not gonna let them pay, but IMO it shows respect at least to offer splitting the bill.
And Jersey Girl. A quick analysis tells me that this guy doesn't have any self-confidence. If you hug, and you kinda stick around and run your finger over his chest WITHOUT him making a move... No self-confidence! Which also explains him "bragging" about his job on your expense.
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Definite clown JG. I don't particularly care for dudes with pony tails. I don't know if it's just the corniness of it, or that most people I've met with them are losers. Not intro'ing you to people was not cool, and from the way he said that "what do you do now" comment is a red flag. He doesn't sound like your flavor at all. BTW, I didn't know you were a vegetarian.
I can always count on you to show me the bright side, lol!
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Originally Posted by phillycard
BTW, I didn't know you were a vegetarian.
Yup. Since 1990-ish. I did appreciate that he wanted to take me somewhere that I could get something to eat. But Indian food is kinda, well, I dunno. Like you like it or you don't kinda thing.
Whatever. It doesn't matter. I wasn't that into him anyway. Next!
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